After a few more miles and a little more attention on the trans, it seems like it shifts nicely when on the throttle, and a bit harsh off the throttle. Sometimes it seems to hang up a bit between gears then hit second kind of hard, but that's only when i'm on the throttle then off of it or something similarly confusing to the trans. Not sure if it's normal as I haven't driven one of these in forever (and my gen 2 had a way better tune).
It stays locked up nice on the highway though, and all 4 gears seem to work for now, so i'll just drive it and enjoy 27 mpg on the highway for a while.