RE: R.I.P. Ret. MSG John Kainoa Jr.
Kale,
My thoughts are with you right now. I haven't lost a parent. I fear the day. You must be very proud of your father, and it's quite touching for you to share your heart-felt grace for him here, amoung friends, near or far.
I'll share with you some words I thought to write. I have never met you, but I will try to help you see my thoughts...perhaps you will find they fit, perhaps you wont, but I'll let you read them if you wish.
My condolensces to you and your family, and your friends who hurt with you. May your days turn to sunshine, with warm thoughts of a man who left his mark on your world. For him, it isnt over...it has just begun. You are now coming to a new beginning...living to be the person he always knew you were. His child...keep thoughts of him close...he knows how you felt, and how you feel now.
Always remember, honor his memory, and remember his honor. That is what life is all about...creating memories...and you know deep down, he did a wonderful job of that. He was "good" at life...now it's your time to live as he would have wanted you to...remembering him at his best. That is what we all want. There is no shame in relief. Sadness will soon be replaced with laughter...of the good times. His suffering is over. He has paid his toll. His path is open to new life...your prayers, as guilty as you may have felt to ask them...were answered. Gone is his pain, replaced only by yours.
They say, time heals all wounds. I dont know this to be true...it is the memories of smiles, laughter, relief and self-pity that help pave the way for wounds to heal.
Depending on YOUR beliefs of life after death...you may find this thought very comforting. Your father may be praying now...praying that you will someday, bring all of your new memories to share with him. He will want you to bring many memories to share, so now is the time to start creating as many memories as you can...you dont want to disappoint him with only a short few. Live long, and live big...he would have wanted it that way.
If I am out of place, I apologize. I am only hoping to comfort a fellow man who has suffered a loss. If I was able to help you think a few happy thoughts for a moment...it is not my words that did that...it is your memory of him. It just so happens that reading my words might have made you think of him...which is my only intention. I mean well. I promise.
The movie...I am speechless. Perfect.
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