anyone ever experience depression?

Destroyer said:
Like I said earlier, I am getting my dealer's license and I am starting this whole thing solo. I know I'll need some help. Up for it?. Of course you would be paid.
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I started to tell our sob story and how we got past it. Changed my mind!

Jamie you have a friend close by offering help. Life can be hard at times, but Anything is possible if you want it bad enough. Wanting it is the answer.

Lots of friends here also.

I wish I could offer more.

Good luck and be strong.
 
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Jehovah Jira, the lord provides. We all know Jesus doesnt give loans.

Jamie, I dont know if what I have to say will help you in any way, but I will say it anyway. I have been through a lot of **** in my life. I have seen a lot of people who have been through even more than me. I have dealt with depression for the past 4 years. Depression or post tramadic stress disorder have filled my life. I guess that comes with combat and what we have to do to survive it. I know from experience that alcohol doesnt fix it. drugs cant fix it. The best thing that I know to do is find someone that will listen to you. When I got home the first time I didnt want to talk about a damn thing, but I see now that is exactly what I needed to do. Find someone you can confide in and TALK to them. It will help you. I felt "down" for quite some time. I have deployed 3 times in 3 years. I have seen and done things I never imagined, and wish I could forget.

I missed 1.5 years of my 3 year old and 6 months of my 1 year old. the first halfes of thier lives. But all I can do is keep a positive attitude and make the rest of thier lives possitive. If you are not happy, find a way to tell your wife, she needs to know. I am sure she knows already but tell her why your unhappy. Melissa knew ther was something wrong, but she assumed it was her, when it had nothing to do with her at all. Keep momma happy, and you keep the family happy.

I know your under stress to be the sole provider and everything like that, but I can almost guarantee she will back you in anything you do if you just talk about it.

It might be strange to hear this from a Marine, but I have learned to talk about my feelings and all the gaga fufu stuff. Surprisingly it helps. If you ever need anything, anything at all, please call me. If you dont have my number its 910-546-4054. Remember bro, we love you. I have too many friends who gave thier life so you can live your life. So live it to the fullest, you owe them that much, and thats all you owe them.

If its financial problems, there are lots of options. There are plenty of professionals out ther to give you advice on that. I can tell I am not one of them since I have my own financial problems. I am a compulsive buyer. However I have been doing better since I had kids. Now I have a reeason not to spend money once its in my pocket, i just need to start doing that.

Any way, give me a call if you want to. I am open 24/7
 
Jamie, do you and your wife share any interests besides cars? Around here, we can go see local ball games and walk or bike park trails for free. I've had so much fun riding with my sister the past couple of years on local bike trails, and the time spent together is very therapeutic! The exercise really does reduce the stress of life, and the ballgames are very relaxing too. When we ride, we like to take a light lunch (from home) with us, and stop to relax and eat on the trail. This would also be a nice thing to do with your dog, if you have one. Our dog sure enjoys it, and she's worn out when we get home!

Just think, you have friends all over the U.S. - not everyone can say that!!
 
thanks everyone. i'm not really up to talking about it to anyone right now. i had a short talk with my wife, but her head islike a concrete wall, she doesnt understand how i feel. i have learned in the last 12 years we have been together that talking to her is pretty useless, she hasnt experienced relationships like me, i am older then her and have been in many more than she has, i'm really the first serious guy she has had, and the only, so she still has alot to learn about compassion and affection, but i gave up on that long ago. anyway Nick, me and you need to talk, if you are going to open a dealership i'm the one you want. there is nothing i cant do to a car, and i love standing in line at the auction!!! if you are serious, i am too.
 
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Besides JP, where does one draw the line? Is epilepsy something that folks can handle without medication? How about cerebral palsy? Are those people just wimpy? Mental retardation? They just don't have the discipline to live a normal life?

Sorry JP, can't agree with you on this one.
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I draw the line with physical impairment or disease brought about by the mental state. If the mental condition impairs your body or conscious state, that's one thing; but if it only impairs your self esteem and social interaction, that's your fault. Of course there are true mental diseases but IMHO many, if not most, are 'normal' conditions or reactions we bring upon ourselves. But we are taught it is not our fault, all we need is a person to talk to or better yet, a pill.

Take any two individuals who suffer the same circumstances. One falls deeply into 'depression' while the other rises above it all and becomes a stronger person. What is the difference? Every day you hear a story of a lost soul and the misery they endure. Yet for each of those, there are people who under the same exact circumstances use the experience to become a better person.

This is by no means an indictment of anyone here on a personal level, merely my own inclinations and beliefs in general pertaining to the subject of 'depression' and other like modern day maladies.

However, I will conclude with this caveat. Used to be I never felt sorry for anyone who committed suicide until I personally was affected by a co-worker who suffered such a fate. The experience did change my perception of suicide profoundly.
 
jamies98lsc said:
anyway Nick, me and you need to talk, if you are going to open a dealership i'm the one you want. there is nothing i cant do to a car, and i love standing in line at the auction!!! if you are serious, i am too.
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Yeah, I'm in the process right now. I'm trying to find a location. I am gonna try to keep overhead low so I'm looking at warehouse/offices and plan on utilizing the internet for sales (i.e. ebay/craigslist,etc). All I basically need for location is an office and 7 parking spots, wont be hard. Got all other bases covered. I am and always was big into cars. I was going to do this before dedicating myself to real estate but with the big boom down here and some good fortune I decided to swing that way. Now that the whole market tanked I'm ready to do what I've been wanting to do and that is get involved with buying/selling cars. I hope to have a location locked down by next week. Once that is done I can follow the other steps. I'll keep you posted, maybe I'll swing by the shop one day when you are available and we will talk more about it. Let me know when is good for you.
 
JP, I can kinda understand what you are saying, but true depression is more than just being sad or getting down. I was always sypathetic to it (minor in psychology), but I didn't realize the depths people can get to until I experienced it myself. And the odd thing was logically I knew I was wrong to feel that way. I have a good life and I know it. It's so hard to explain til you've really been there.
 
I don't know much about this subject Jamie, but I think having friends helps a lot. You've defininatley got a lot of friends here.

I just sent you an email with a list of parts that I've needed for a while. It's not much but, I hope it helps a little.
 
I think therapists suck. The two i went to were trying to blame things on my parents and abuse which is far from the truth, I had a super chilhood. My family doctor helped out alot by telling me that most depression is a chemical deficiency in the brain. Whether that is true i dont know. But he put me on an anti-depressant and I can finally get out of bed in the morning without feeeling like I was ran over by a truck. The one he put me on doesnt cause the sexual side effecs in men like the others which in my (in no way medicaly qualified) opinion can make things worse. Get some help for it it was the best decision I made in a long time.
 
beatupmark said:
I think therapists suck. The two i went to were trying to blame things on my parents and abuse which is far from the truth, I had a super chilhood. My family doctor helped out alot by telling me that most depression is a chemical deficiency in the brain.
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I think your right most do suck I went to alot of them while I was going through a divorce and alot of them wanted me to take some form of anti-depressant drug, I didn't think I needed one I just couldnt get my life together the way I wanted it to be, but I do believe some people have a chemical deficiency that can cause deep depression.

driller said:
I draw the line with physical impairment or disease brought about by the mental state. If the mental condition impairs your body or conscious state, that's one thing; but if it only impairs your self esteem and social interaction, that's your fault. Of course there are true mental diseases but IMHO many, if not most, are 'normal' conditions or reactions we bring upon ourselves. But we are taught it is not our fault, all we need is a person to talk to or better yet, a pill.
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I think you might have a point here, BUT
Alot of people have trouble dealing with the B.S. life hurls at you.
ONE therapist gave me the right tools to deal with problems I never have seen or had to deal with before.
My ex had ALOT of issues I had a hard time with.
The right therapist helped me understand why and what tools to use to deal with them.
He helped me get control and understand, its more then I need a pill or just someone to talk to.
Its like changing spark plugs with out a socket try as you might try as you may it won't happen.
The right therapist for me gave me the socket I needed to change them plugs.:D
 
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